Decoding Modern Dating, Judicial Nightmares, and Nostalgic Halloween Magic

What if modern dating is more about decoding digital breadcrumbs than romantic dinners? This episode kicks off with a hilarious yet thought-provoking tale involving reality star Kristen Cavallari and celebrity chef Bobby Flay. Kristen gives us a peek into her decision to decline a dinner invitation that materialized through Instagram DMs, sparking our conversation on the tricky terrain of dating etiquette in the digital age. We dissect whether it was a potential romantic overture or just a friendly gesture, adding layers of humor and insight to modern relationships' complexities. 

Switching from light-hearted to alarming, we delve into the unsettling real-life drama of Penny McCarthy, a grandmother who found herself caught in a judicial nightmare due to a fingerprinting error. We share our outrage and concern over the justice system's lapses that led to her wrongful arrest at gunpoint. To lighten the mood, our episode takes a nostalgic turn as we honor the legendary actress Teri Garr, reminiscing about her iconic roles and memorable TV appearances. Our discussion stirs up fond memories of Halloween traditions, especially a hauntingly elaborate setup from our teenage years that featured a real casket and spooky special effects, bringing a touch of magic and nostalgia to your listening experience.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Intruder's Home Invasion Caught on Camera
• 9:49 Remembering Terry Garr's Career and Impact

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:19

Hello, good morning, welcome one and all. It's Wednesday, we need to get right to it. This episode might be a tad longer than usual, but I'm going to try to keep it short. Let's get on with it, shall we All right?

Speaker 1: 0:31

Podcast topic Kristen Cavallari admits she rejected Chef Bobby Flay when he slid into her DMs. I have no idea who Kristen Cavallari is. I had to look her up. She's some kind of reality star. I don't know, never heard of her, but of course she probably has a podcast. These famous people always have a podcast Buttoning on us indie folks here Crowding the space out for us. All right, let's see what this has to say. I guess bobby is known as a player. I guess I don't know. Kristin cavallari admitted she rejected bobby flay when he slid into her dms and asked her out for dinner, but it was actually a big misunderstanding. Uh-huh, sure we're gonna get into this other topic that well, you'll see when we get there.

Speaker 1: 1:26

The Laguna Beach alum am I pronounced alumni? Yeah, recalled the foot-in-mouth moment as the chef made an appearance on Tuesday's episode of her let's Be Honest podcast. See, I knew she had a podcast. I DM'd you and I said to you I'm going to be in Nashville for the night, and can I take you out for dinner? Flay said and you literally said something to me like I'm already dating somebody. Cavallari, however, had a slightly different version of events. Or I was like I'm over dating right now, I was burnt out on dating, or something she said. However, flay stuck to his story. No, you said I've already started seeing somebody, and I said I just want to go to dinner with you. He replied laughing Okay, blah, blah, blah. It goes on. I'm not going to finish reading anything else, because my question for you is was he asking her out on a date?

Speaker 1: 2:28

Now, I don't know how old is Bobby Flay. Normally they have their ages in here when they write something like this, but of course they don't. I think she's in her late 30s and I think he is close to 60. I'm not sure I could be wrong. Yeah, she's 37. I don't know how old he is. I guess I have to look it up later, but I think he's nearly 60. If not, if not, um, all right, anyway.

Speaker 1: 2:55

So my question is do you think that was? Do you think he was? Do you think he was asking her out on a date, trying to see if he could, what he could do like could he further the relationship after this dinner? Or was it literally like no, I'm just asking you out for dinner. I just want to go to dinner with you. What is that? If it's not a date? What is that? Is it not? Maybe I don't know in these days 2024, maybe 2024, maybe it's not.

Speaker 1: 3:24

I know I have to stick up for Bobby here a little bit. I know, when the gent and I kind of hung around together, I never called it a date. In fact, I made sure it was not a date. I'm like no, we're not dating, we're just going out as friends. Blah, blah blah which, by the way, reminds me our anniversary is coming up. It'll be Friday, november 1st is our anniversary, and we are going to do a special episode for you on Friday morning, November 1st. The two of us will be on for that day doing a podcast talking about how we met blah blah, how he got his nickname and all that All right. So we're going to move on to the next one.

Speaker 1: 4:00

Next podcast topic is shocking video shows. Arizona grandma falsely arrested by US marshals at gunpoint. I felt like I was being kidnapped. I don't know if you've heard this story or not. Maybe you have. I just found it this morning. Maybe it's been on the news yesterday. Shocking footage shows US marshals aggressively arresting an Arizona woman they thought skipped out on probation 25 years ago. 25 years it's taken them to fight her. But this is the wrong person. But they got the wrong person and instead pulled their guns on a grandmother who had never heard of the subject. I truly felt like I was being kidnapped. 66 year old Penny McCarthy told ABC after the outlet obtained body cam footage from the arrest. I am so disappointed in my government. It's not funny. No, it's not.

Speaker 1: 4:54

Mccarthy was going about her day at home outside at Phoenix of March 5th. This happened back in March. Why are they just now reporting on this? When a van full of people claiming to be US Marshals pulled up and pointed heavy rifles in her face telling her she was under arrest. Astonished, mccarthy asked them to verify. They had the right person pleading with them to just tell me who I am.

Speaker 1: 5:21

But the officers refused and instead yelled at her to give herself up. Turn away, turn around, turn away. We'll discuss it later. But the officers refused and instead yelled at her to give herself up. Turn away, turn around, turn away. We'll discuss it later. Turn away, you're gonna get hit. The officer roared at her goodness. Then she asked can you prove that you're the police? Because I guess they were. They were in regular clothes. Mccarthy asked, but the officers refused to even show any identification or warrant until she allowed herself to be cuffed.

Speaker 1: 5:49

The footage showed that is some bullshit. You see that we're in the. You see that we're the police. Now, that's not necessarily true. How can I see that? She responded if you turn around again, you're gonna get to tased. Oh, lisa, they just had tasers. Goodness, I don't think I'd want to be tased. All right, so what happened? Us Marshals in Oklahoma later said fingerprinting glitch matched McCarthy to Rosak and a month after the arrest confirmed McCarthy was not their suspect. The agency previously told ABC they were continuing to conduct a thorough review of the arrest and the officer's actions.

Speaker 1: 6:29

Requests for comment from the Post were not answered by the time of publication. Of course not. I hope she sues their asses. I hope she drags them all the way to court and takes them for everything they got. Shame on them. I'm not, maybe. I don't know if I blame the individual police officers or if I blame the whole, the whole thing. I don't know. What do you think? All right, our next topic. This is this is weird. This is weird, but it's a lesson.

Speaker 1: 7:00

Teen finds intruder making himself at home with his dog, eating, napping and defecating in decor all right, all right, it's enough to make you homesick. The moment a 14-year-old Indiana boy confronted an intruder who made himself at home while the teen's family was away, making pizza bites, napping, feeding his dog and defecating in a decorative container was captured in alarming doorbell camera footage. Teen Max Calhoun can be seen on October 20th ring camera footage entering the Muncie home after being dropped off by his friend's father, justin Oliver, vice principal of Muncie Central High School. The boy quickly turns tail and sprints when a dog begins barking at him, hopping the hedges, flanking the sidewalk and bolting to get help from Oliver. The footage then shows the Marine veteran running up to the door with a handgun drawn and entering Good for him, hey. He is heard saying forcefully as he enters, you're gonna get shot. The man inside the home was identified by cops as Kenneth Gregory Quillation, who told Oliver not to shoot him I'm not dangerous. According to the outlet, I said well, you're robbing my friend's house, so don't tell me you're not dangerous. The hero recalled telling the 33-year-old intruder, quillation, had fallen through the attic, took a shower, ate pizza rolls and fed his dog.

Speaker 1: 8:35

While camping out in the empty home, max's mom, ashley Calhoun, told Storyful he had also defecated in a decorative container, despite having multiple toilets. The perplexed homeowner revealed the alleged intruder had apparently cased the house for a few days to make sure that the family was indeed on vacation. Cased the house for a few days to make sure that the family was indeed on vacation. After he met her husband, rob, to discuss an item he had for sale. Calhoun said so these people try to sell something online. They meet up with this guy and the father says well, it's in the attic, I'll have to get it down after we get back from our vacation. He tells a total stranger that he's leaving his house. Oh my god, he's hey. He says hey, I can't even believe this. I met this guy last just in passing. We talked about an item I had that he was really interested in. I told him I don't really have time to look for it, it's up in the our attic. I'm leaving for two weeks on wednesday dumb move. Obviously. The man comes back. He cases the house to make sure they're not there. He breaks in. He goes up to the attic to try to find this thing. Oh my gosh, you can't tell people you're leaving to go out of town. No, all right, we're moving on.

Speaker 1: 9:49

We got to talk about Terry Garr. Now I'm going to read word for word this thing from Variety Terry Garr, star of Young Frankenstein and Tootsie. Thing from Variety Terry Garr, star of Young Frankenstein and Tootsie, dies at 79 years old Now. She had multiple sclerosis. They say that's what she died from. But we're going to read this because I think I should. I found out about Terry Garr when she made a bunch of. I knew her from when she appeared on David Letterman. That's how I first heard about her. She made a bunch of appearance on David Letterman because I used to watch David Letterman all the time when I was young, high school, whatever and that's when I first heard about her. Okay, but of course I know her from Mr Mom and all the other movies she's been in All right. Here we go. Terry Garr, the comic actress, the singer who brought her buoyant personality to young Frankenstein and was Oscar nominated for Tootsie, died on Tuesday in Los Angeles after a long battle with multiple sclerosis. She was 79.

Speaker 1: 10:45

An influential performer to comedians including Tina Fey, gar was a familiar face in dozens of TV shows and films in the 1970s, 80s and 90s. The actress revealed in 2002 that she had been diagnosed with MS and she suffered from aneurysm in 2006. After starting her career as a dancer, garr first gained attention as Inga, the saucy assistant in Mel Brooks' 1974 Young Frankenstein. I did not know that. It was made in 1974. Wow, who greeted Gene Wilder Dr Frederick Frankenstein? I did not know that it was made in 1974. Wow, who greeted Gene Wilder Dr Frederick Frankenstein with the memorable. Would you like to have a roll in the hay Our friends she? On Friends, she played Phoebe Abbott in three episodes I guess that was Phoebe's mother, I'm not sure In 1997 and 1998.

Speaker 1: 11:38

In Steven Spielberg's Close Encounters of the Third Kind, gar was the wife of Richard Dreyfuss. What, are you sure? I thought that was somebody else. Are you sure I thought that was somebody else who was his wife? And I thought it was. Oh, there was a different lady, though, in there too. In Close Encounters of the Third Kind. Okay, she netted a supporting actress Oscar nomination, starring opposite Dustin Hoffman as his actress friend in Sidney Pollack's Tootsie and played the working mom to Michael Keaton's Stay at Home Dad in Mr Mom.

Speaker 1: 12:16

Born in Ohio, she moved to Los Angeles, graduated North Hollywood High School and attended Cal State Northridge before moving to New York to study acting, starting out as a go-go dancer. She can be seen shimmying behind the performance in filmed rock concert, the TAMI Show, and in six Elvis Presley features what, and in six Elvis Presley features what, Most choreographed by her mentor, david Winters. During the 60s she had bit parts on sitcoms including that Girl, batman and the Andy Griffith Show. I did not know this. I gotta go find all of those episodes, especially the Elvis Presley features. Gar's first speaking role came in the Monkees offbeat feature film Head, written by Jack Nicholson, whom she had met in an acting class. On the Assignment Earth episode of Star Trek she played a ditzy secretary, the first in a string of many such roles. Oh, I did not know this about her. Wow, she became regular singer and dancer on the Sonny and Cher show. Did not know that either and I watched that all the time as a kid Before landing a role in Francis Ford Coppola's the Conversation.

Speaker 1: 13:26

All right, I'll stop there. You can go finish reading that. I did put it out there on my X feed so you can read the rest of that. It's very interesting.

Speaker 1: 13:37

I just find it so bizarre these actors that we kind of grew up with are so old now, like she was 79. There was somebody else I was thinking of that was really old too, and I'm like when they, when they, when they drop out of acting and you forget about them for a while and then they pop back up and you realize how old they are, it's like, oh, it was Dirk Benedict. It's like who, how did they age that fast? You know? It's like also like seeing somebody's. Like if you have a friend who has kids and then you know, time goes by and you and then you see the, you see him again. You know, years later the kids are older. It's like, wait a minute, they were just a baby, you know. I think you know what I'm saying. All right, we're going to move on.

Speaker 1: 14:22

We need a question of the day. All right, do you decorate your house for Halloween? Or when you were a kid, when you went trick-or-treating, what was like? Did you ever go to like a favorite house that had decorations on the outside? That was like phenomenal.

Speaker 1: 14:40

When I was growing up as a teenager when we lived in Orlando, florida. My stepmother worked for a funeral home and somehow she finagled them to get a casket and we brought it to the house. We set it up. We had an L-shaped home so the garage faced one way and then she would dress up as a witch so we had the casket like on the right by the garage. The garage door was open. We had the casket there with a dummy in it. We had dry ice and everything, so it had like smoke and everything. I mean it was elaborate. And then she would dress up as a witch and sit on the porch and pass out candy. We decorated it. She would have me and my sister dress up and things, you know, kind of lurk around the house and like zombies and walk around. It was, it was. It was a lot of fun. Um, so did you guys do anything like that? Also, the house in Florida.

Speaker 1: 15:27

I still remember the address, 200 Wilmer Avenue, orlando, florida. You can look it up and so I'm going to look it up later today to see if it's still there. We had a pool out back. It was on a corner lot. It was cool. I loved that. That was a good house. That was a nice house, good neighborhood. I don't know what it looks like now. It'd be interesting to look it up and see what it looks like. All right, I have to go and, uh, you guys have a great day. And uh, we'll be back again tomorrow, god willing. Thanks for listening.